Do We Experience Birth Trauma Or Is it Really Something Else?

For many years, I wondered why tears appeared whenever I witnessed the birth of a child, either in reality or dramatized during a movie or TV show. I thought I was experiencing tears of joy for a miraculous, beautiful experience. Yet, there was an undercurrent of grief in my emotional response. Indeed, the birth of a child is a wondrous miracle that bears many gifts to both parents and children. However, as I came to understand, my tears were actually tears of sorrow.

Why would I feel distressed? When I asked my spiritual counselors to explain my feelings, they said my response was based on feeling compassion for the separation of the newly birthed soul from Source and the subsequent, often difficult, journey of that soul back to the realization that it was loved. As Spirit described, when we agree to a physical life, we agree to certain parameters that reinforce our learning. Those parameters are relegated to our subconscious rather than conscious awareness, or our attention to learning might not occur. Therefore, we are typically not conscious of the contents in our subconscious.

I teach a process, called Releasing Soul Barriers, for those interested in revealing and clearing their subconscious programs. I have developed twenty-three charts that help identify the subconscious programs via the use of a pendulum. One of the charts is entitled “Learning Experiences”. I use this chart to understand why I may have elected to experience a difficult situation, either in this or a prior life. Once I understand the rationale behind the painful experience and my role in asking for it, I am more easily able to accept it and move on. As I have come to understand from frequently using my charts, we WANT the learning from our past lives. We DON’T WANT the trauma. If we can release the trauma through acceptance, we are free to make new choices rather than remaining stuck in unproductive behaviors that make us feel safe, yet unhappy. This applies to the birth trauma, too.

Now, back to the birth experience. I asked Spirit via my charts to identify the primary learning experience we desire when we are birthed into physical form. “Partnership” was the word that was revealed. Then I asked for the primary discordant energy that arose via the birth experience, and “unwanted” was revealed. Ah, Spirit works in mysterious ways!!! How could we desire partnership yet also agree to suffer from feelings of being unwanted?

Polarity is at the root of the answer. We have elected a planetary experience that operates under the rules of duality (FYI - you can alter those contracts by breaking polarity vows as described on my website or in my book Breaking Free). Therefore, we learn via contrast. If we want to become skilled at partnership, we might choose life experiences that are devoid of partnership or challenge us when we enter partnerships. The contrast gives us a clear understanding of the condition we desire. We are very sure about what we want when we don’t have it! The most enriching spiritual partnership occurs between a human being and Source. Source is us, and we are Source. If we feel bereft of that union from the day we are born, we will probably expend a great deal of energy during our lifetime searching for that union.

Now, returning to the grief I feel when witnessing a birth, even on TV, it appears I am subconsciously tapping my own feeling of estrangement from Source at the root level. I believe I am spiritually connected, and I acknowledge all is one and one is all. However, I believe there is something in all of us that undermines our innate knowing that we are in spiritual alliance with Source. This is compounded by Biblical stories like Adam and Eve’s fall from grace that tell us we have been booted out of the fold, just like we were expelled from the birth canal. It is also exacerbated by immature parents who indicate to their children, overtly or covertly, that they are unwanted or bothersome. We live among a world of emotional excommunicates, all of whom are searching for that union, sometimes productively and sometimes in a hurtful fashion either to themselves or others.

According to Spirit, there can be additional traumas associated with a difficult birth. However, feeling unwanted and looking for sometimes inappropriate or unproductive partnerships to fill the void is one of the most damaging elements to our spiritual growth. The following prayer request was created to repattern the subconscious programs and agreements that have been designed to evoke a continuous search for spiritual partnership. Once we have acquired the understanding of spiritual partnership, we do not need to replay the lesson. I call this the regurgitation of soul lessons, and I find they become increasingly unproductive.

Prior to reading the following prayer request to shift the partnership/unwanted conflict, you will need to instruct your subconscious to create a “surcharge” of vital force (i.e., mana, prana, chi). Then breathe deeply six times using the following pattern: inhale slowly to the count of four, hold to the count of four, exhale slowly to the count of eight. This is an ancient Polynesian or Kahuna breathing pattern that generates a great deal of vital force. Please note that vital force is not the breath itself. It is the combustion of energy that occurs when oxygen enters the body and interacts with the stored fats, proteins, and carbohydrates in your cells. Command your subconscious to send the vital force to your spiritual committee and High Self to be used to enact the following request. Then, read the request aloud.

• Please conduct all of the following requests on me or any version of me for all energy bodies into infinity, all aspects of my soul, all parallel and multidimensional lives, all past/present/future lives in all concepts of time, on all subconscious levels of thought, throughout eternity. Remove all trauma as it relates to this clearing, transmuting it to love before releasing it to the universe, while retaining all of my learning experiences free of trauma.
• Release the agreement in my soul records to experience a feeling of being unwanted as part of the human birth experience, including any perceptions of falling from grace. Replace the feeling of being unwanted with being wanted, connected, interrelated, Divinely loved and embraced, and in communion with Source. Acknowledge at all levels, both cellular and subtle, that I am completely integrated with the ALL that is.
• Enter my soul records and indicate that the learning experience of partnership has been fully understood and is complete, either through contrast or through actual fulfillment of the experience.
• Release any and all birth and birthing traumas that have distorted the truth of my reality.
• Reclaim my joy and power of the act of creation as an integral part of Source.

As a result of completing this prayer request, anticipated feeling more energized by your renewed partnership with a higher power. Enjoy the feeling of interrelatedness that transcends all Earthly relationships and creates a stronger sense of balance in your life.